When Life’s Not Fair

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My “passionate”, smart, funny, all-boy 9 year old has been struggling with anxiety again, and my mama heart is heavy for him. The battle has at times been very intense in the last 2 years. Exhausting and frustrating.  And so very revealing of God’s redeeming love.

Anxiety is real. It isn’t something you can just flip a switch on, and “stop”.  I must admit, I didn’t understand how debilitating the grip of worry could be, until we watched it nearly choke the life out of our ball-of-energy little boy.

After a year of beautiful Christian counseling, and a whole lot of grace, our boy came through stronger than before.  His story is nothing shy of a miracle.

And, yet, I’ve been reminded as he’s struggled at different points in the last few months, from various “triggers,” that the enemy is relentless — what an unfair battle for a little one to have to fight, but still, it reminds me just how much Truth we need to be pouring into our children, and into our own hearts — in season and out. // Always knowing well what is lying just beneath the surface // paying attention to the crafty schemes of the enemy.

“Be sure you know the condition of your flocks, give careful attention to your herds; for riches do not endure forever, and a crown is not secure for all generations. When the hay is removed and new growth appears and the grass from the hills is gathered in, the lambs will provide you with clothing, and the goats with the price of a field. You will have plenty of goats’ milk to feed your family and to nourish your female servants.” – Proverbs 23:23-27

Because fair or not, you’re never too little (or big) to learn to how to be strong and courageous – to experience the valley so your gaze will look upward // to be pruned so that new growth is possible // and to never stop fighting to expose the enemy for exactly who he is — a liar and a thief.

Praise God, we are guaranteed ultimate victory.

Hold on to His promises — your battle is real, and maybe it’s not fair — but neither is grace.  Yeah, that’s undeserved too. Remember, you are more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus. Nothing can separate you from the safety of His loving arms – not one single thing. You can be convinced of it.

As it is written:“For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.” No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. – Romans 8:36-39

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About Jodie

*Christ-follower *wife *mom *orphan advocate *church champion *writer *co-founder Altar84 *receiver, and giver, of all that's grace

3 comments on “When Life’s Not Fair

  1. Hi Jodie, I was going back through Philippians study in IF and rereading my posts and wanted to thank you for your sweet responses and encouragement! And then I saw you have a blog!!! I love it! I also am a mom of three boys— wow if we lived closer we could have a coffee date and share just on the topic of boys for hours I am sure!!! I love IF and the opportunities it provides to get to know other women and hear their hearts! You are one of those I just look forward to! God bless! Thanks for being an encourager!!!

    • Michelle, hey! I haven’t checked into my blog lately (*sigh*), but I sensed Him drawing me back today – to journey in this place of grace again. And your message was the first thing I saw — what a sweet gift. Thank you!!
      I absolutely love how He has woven our paths together, and am so grateful for the encouragement that you also give to me. Do you have a blog? I would love to follow you there (and I’d love for you to follow me here 🙂 Much love and grace, beautiful sister. xx

  2. Hi Jodie!
    I love this. I also suffer from anxiety (especially reading the news) and each time I add whatever is causing the anxiety, no matter how minor, to my prayer list. It has helped, but I totally get how Satan uses our triggers against us. I felt this when I was setting up IF:Tables at my church. It set in right as I was about to speak to people leaving the service to try to encourage them to sign up. I was gripped with anxiety and thought that there was no way I would be able to speak to people. But I saw that it was Satan attacking me in my weakest point. He plays dirty. It was a “get behind me, Satan” moment.

    The teacher in me was awakened as I read your blog. Making things concrete has always helped in my classroom. Maybe having your son write out what is causing him anxiety and laying it under a picture of Jesus–effectively laying it at His feet– might help when he is triggered. I have been praying for you and your family and added prayer for your son’s anxiety after reading your blog. I have so enjoyed all of your IF entries. You are truly a light for people! So glad to know about your blog.
    Tara Cho

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